tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post1008373764576205758..comments2024-01-01T03:41:22.940-05:00Comments on The Maybe Baby (Babies): Originsmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-62194338530141292622022-12-07T18:37:58.718-05:002022-12-07T18:37:58.718-05:00That’s a dramatic increase from the 1970’s, when ...That’s a dramatic increase from the 1970’s, when it was lower than 50 p.c in most casinos. A lot of that has to do with the <a href="https://vjtmxmzkwlsh.com/%EC%9A%B0%EB%A6%AC%EC%B9%B4%EC%A7%80%EB%85%B8/" rel="nofollow">우리카지노</a> advancements in gaming technology. Slot machines right now are very completely different than their predecessors. When choosing slot machines, as discussed above, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-47123876705613382042013-02-15T09:01:54.535-05:002013-02-15T09:01:54.535-05:00I guess it's important to *acknowledge* the or...I guess it's important to *acknowledge* the origin without making a virtue of it. In a way, if you are just as comfortable talking about it as leaving it out of the conversation, the emotional charge is gone, and that's the goal in my opinion.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-65512921324268819432013-02-03T16:20:46.856-05:002013-02-03T16:20:46.856-05:00oh, also meant to throw in that I have learned too...oh, also meant to throw in that I have learned too when you do open up and share to those who are you are comfortable with about your situation, you do learn of so many people who've been through similar things. I've had so many friends talk to me about HPV, other lady problems and infertility since being diagnosed. <br /><br />Finally, thank you for your lovely comment on my blog last nicoleciomekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00126828010169796290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-14126045419386665692013-02-03T16:19:15.099-05:002013-02-03T16:19:15.099-05:00There are some things not everyone needs to know. ...There are some things not everyone needs to know. I agree. BBB is going to be so well loved and no matter how he got here, the fact that he is going to be here soon and be yours is all that matters. I think it is also awesome you plan to tell BBB how he arrived in the world. Because we have some family who have twins that were born via surrogacy and they do not know they were born via surrogacy.nicoleciomekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00126828010169796290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-47848267946641628902013-02-01T16:12:03.176-05:002013-02-01T16:12:03.176-05:00Because we have twins I always get the "did y...Because we have twins I always get the "did you do those fertility drugs?" kind of questions. Frankly, it isn't the Target check out lady's business how I conceived my children. I certainly wouldn't introduce them as "These are my kids conceived in a petri dish, and these two, they were frozen for three months! Pretty cool, huh?" :)Chickenpighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09442755180328605920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-4618412123978288532013-01-27T09:51:49.234-05:002013-01-27T09:51:49.234-05:00@jessah - wishing you so much luck! Surrogacy is e...@jessah - wishing you so much luck! Surrogacy is exciting, but wow, it took me quite a while to come to terms with it and wrap my head around it. Even longer for us to find someone we wanted to take the journey with. Don't let the $$$ scare you. Equate it to the time and money you would have spent on failed cycles. You'll be surprised how easy it adds up. Also, you may have some willing mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-46558186315915138422013-01-27T09:48:49.419-05:002013-01-27T09:48:49.419-05:00@counting, @luna and @danielle - I think you'r...@counting, @luna and @danielle - I think you're right. There really is a switch when the person arrives. I just hope I'm able to keep my trap shut and help BBB cultivate and create his own narrative without too much insertion from me. <br /><br />sidenote here: somehow, talking about surrogacy openly has been much much easier for me than donor eggs, which, you know, we have also used. Andmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-71778504447403290542013-01-27T09:44:11.909-05:002013-01-27T09:44:11.909-05:00@Lisa - talking about a TTC journey when you are s...@Lisa - talking about a TTC journey when you are smack in the midst of it...damn. that is hard in any context and I think very, very few people know the extent of what we've gone through in real life. Because a.) its hard to talk about it without getting teary, isn't it? b.) I think in general, people really don't care and just want to tell you what they think and as you've said, mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-42099552469318598982013-01-27T09:40:30.664-05:002013-01-27T09:40:30.664-05:00@Rachel - what is WRONG with people?!?! It does co...@Rachel - what is WRONG with people?!?! It does constantly blow my mind what people think is ok to question or say in front of sentient beings. Growing up, I actually got the opposite response from strangers/family/people that should know better. We would get stuff like: "There is no WAY you are adopted! You and your dad look exactly alike!" Uh, ok. So, what does one say to that?? Oh mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-79739353245818682372013-01-27T09:36:53.232-05:002013-01-27T09:36:53.232-05:00Is there anything cooler than realizing you have s...Is there anything cooler than realizing you have some long-time readers that you didn't know about before? Hello! Welcome! I love you! Thanks so much for adding your thoughts here. <br /><br />@Lollipop, I've been thinking about your recent reading for a while now. How would I feel if I were in that situation? On either side? I really don't know. You raise a great questions (and mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-21371417676088222772013-01-27T02:52:37.346-05:002013-01-27T02:52:37.346-05:00this is an interesting area where adoption differs...this is an interesting area where adoption differs from ART (but for the fact that your child will be born from another woman, though he is yours already!) <br /><br />yet the question when to say what when is always an issue. and yes, when you're in the process it makes sense to share in whatever way is comfortable. but it's true, how he got here and who this special person is in his lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-41612516101698822452013-01-26T18:00:36.678-05:002013-01-26T18:00:36.678-05:00This is so exciting and I completely agree with yo...This is so exciting and I completely agree with you. Since our first IVF cycle got cancelled a few weeks, I've been wondering if we could afford surrogacy if I can't carry my own baby. I don't think we can but I think it is just so amazing!Jessah @ Dreaming of Dimpleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02945119397487785737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-70585288106578428382013-01-25T20:31:25.286-05:002013-01-25T20:31:25.286-05:00And, by the way, about your last post- No, dude. ...And, by the way, about your last post- No, dude. I can't stand it!!! Daniellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03775571361470043724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-59602787747797904422013-01-25T20:30:27.134-05:002013-01-25T20:30:27.134-05:00Everything I thought I would feel about Jonathan&#...Everything I thought I would feel about Jonathan's conception switched when he arrived. It went from being my story to tell- a story of loss, of infertility, of options we were exploring- to being the story of his life and, as I now see it, his to tell. So those who know exactly how he got here know for one of 3 reasons: because I needed support in the process, because their kids got here Daniellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03775571361470043724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-7260576584124792072013-01-25T16:13:40.279-05:002013-01-25T16:13:40.279-05:00I am so excited for you! I hope the decision of h...I am so excited for you! I hope the decision of how much to tell to whom becomes easier with time. It may be that it'll be so natural in the moment that you rarely notice. My partner carried our child and often people who weren't there for her pregnancy (and sometimes, scarily, even those who were) assume I am my daughter's birth mother. Sometimes I find it appropriate and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-36633312019654053432013-01-25T11:56:12.311-05:002013-01-25T11:56:12.311-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-54045155347621943972013-01-25T11:05:06.537-05:002013-01-25T11:05:06.537-05:00I totally agree with you. I'm 2+ years into a ...I totally agree with you. I'm 2+ years into a grueling TTC process and we're doing our first IVF in a couple months. I don't talk about it with most people for so many reasons, too many to list, but mainly b/c everyone has different opinions/thoughts/advice and I can't spend all day re-hashing the most personal, most challenging aspect of my life currently (and one that most Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03584431220332308431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-1411205528087450032013-01-25T09:44:38.640-05:002013-01-25T09:44:38.640-05:00Long-time reader. So very excited for you!
I don...Long-time reader. So very excited for you!<br /><br />I don't think you need to worry too much about this - you already know that the context matters. I mention our fertility treatments in a variety of contexts - when asked aggressively why we had children "so young" (it happens a lot, especially work-related), when asked why I am "in a rush" to have another (often by Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15243054875237959038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-67597341764257521982013-01-25T09:38:57.797-05:002013-01-25T09:38:57.797-05:00I think origin matters to the individual. I think...I think origin matters to the individual. I think origin matters to the people connected to the individual because it often becomes part of their story as well. But for everyone else...<br /><br />So yeah, I'm of two minds with this in terms of what we owe other people in terms of sharing. Do we need to share consistently the same amount with every person? If we don't share, does thatLollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-32614543964513372902013-01-25T09:26:04.276-05:002013-01-25T09:26:04.276-05:00I don't think I've ever commented but have...I don't think I've ever commented but have been a long time reader and simply couldn't be happier for you! <br /><br />Also, I completely agree with you - I don't believe that the act of achieving parenthood should overrule the children (so to use your example "please meet my adopted daughter from _____". Just introduce your daughter and let people figure it out Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11463487922237508682noreply@blogger.com