tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post5352525948748697543..comments2024-01-01T03:41:22.940-05:00Comments on The Maybe Baby (Babies): But what do you DO?mhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-76451824039910517072011-06-30T00:06:09.007-05:002011-06-30T00:06:09.007-05:00Here from creme...its amazing how much a question ...Here from creme...its amazing how much a question which I would have stupidly asked people when I was young and dumb can cause me so much pain now. <br /><br />Great post. Cheers TanyaTanyahttp://www.fertilehealing.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-20508955624036533682011-02-11T10:11:21.294-05:002011-02-11T10:11:21.294-05:00Ugh. People can be such idiots. I'm sorry that...Ugh. People can be such idiots. I'm sorry that you have to put up with stuff like that. It sounds like you handled it really well, though. Unfortunately, raining on other people's parades seems to just make them think that you are totally unhinged, rather than making them question their own behavior, in my experience. Probably because people that create situations like that tend not to beSarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02747382929049494704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-79300003976721135232011-01-09T17:01:17.647-05:002011-01-09T17:01:17.647-05:00When we were trying, I always dreaded the question...When we were trying, I always dreaded the question "do you have kids". <br />To this day, I'm uncomfortable asking other people if they have kids, and usually don't. If they do, it will mostly come up in conversation. <br /><br />This person takes the dreaded question to the next level. <br /><br />I can understand the initial desire to lash out, but in the end not wanting to Lut C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03893061829410958985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-11196025989263833042010-06-15T11:04:51.097-05:002010-06-15T11:04:51.097-05:00That's so obnoxious. WTF. What did HE do befor...That's so obnoxious. WTF. What did HE do before becoming a parent? Why is that the be-all and end-all? Obviously he didn't make the most of that time. Without knowing your story, he's probably trying to make you feel badly for having the time to do whatever you want. <br /><br />And OMG, like having pets is even remotely relevant.Two Shorten the Roadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03552869938010784108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-53467950678148310542010-06-11T07:18:24.570-05:002010-06-11T07:18:24.570-05:00You know, after I write a post like this one, I al...You know, after I write a post like this one, I always wonder if I have over-reacted, taken something out of context, distorted a completely normal human interaction and twisted it through my lens of loss, which is so, so possible. <br /><br />While I am so sorry if I started any self-questioning along these lines (sorry!) I am so gratified to see that you too are bothered by this line of mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-10159190894069500602010-06-11T00:33:23.814-05:002010-06-11T00:33:23.814-05:00as if those without kids or pets don't DO anyt...as if those without kids or pets don't DO anything of significance. as if the resume makes the person. as if those we don't discuss never existed. sigh.lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-63594407599504759402010-06-10T17:43:33.066-05:002010-06-10T17:43:33.066-05:00You know, I have been asking myself the same quest...You know, I have been asking myself the same question lately- since I currently have all the time in the world with no little one at home to fill it, what the hell do I DO that makes any sense at all? Had anyone else asked me, though, I would have been tempted to punch them. <br /><br />I agree completely- the grief gets easier. The stasis doesn't.Daniellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02673054313143096148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-3865088878233141572010-06-10T14:39:02.281-05:002010-06-10T14:39:02.281-05:00When there's a gaping hole in the place that y...When there's a gaping hole in the place that your heart broke in half, small talk is indeed very difficult. Either you tell people your shocking reality and their jaws drop and they quietly shuffle away because they don't know what to say, or you have this completely shallow conversation about something like the weather, (to save them the horror) and then walk away wondering how you Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-58780727693745366022010-06-10T14:19:24.935-05:002010-06-10T14:19:24.935-05:00I feel like apologizing on behalf of humanity for ...I feel like apologizing on behalf of humanity for that jackass. I have wracked my brain and cannot come up with a situation when that question is ever okay. Still, I know this isn't about bashing him. The grief does get easier, I guess. I feel like instead of imparting some wisdom, though, it has left me feeling a bit like everyone in the world is a self-absorbed, clueless jackass. Last year,still life angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15150141781089602529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-34968819188691400282010-06-10T12:19:15.176-05:002010-06-10T12:19:15.176-05:00Ugh. Now you've got me thinking about what *I*...Ugh. Now you've got me thinking about what *I* do. Really, there seems to be no "right" answer on how to spend your time on earth.<br /><br />Ick. How people can so not see the pain, how we are supposed to bear it but not bare it.<br /><br />And ick, also, for being in the position to make or not make a statement about I & J.<br /><br />Hugs, m.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-60557817950885286262010-06-10T11:33:43.973-05:002010-06-10T11:33:43.973-05:00Ugh the questions :( Just the thought of someone a...Ugh the questions :( Just the thought of someone asking me if I have kids and why not fills me with dread. Lately I've been thinking about what I want my life without kids to be like and thinking of what I'd like to do with my time. I don't want to be defined (even by myself) as childless, the non-mom. Instead I want to someday be thought of as the runner, the yogi, the scientist, jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06645802594940433840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-71671020122867593252010-06-10T10:05:07.443-05:002010-06-10T10:05:07.443-05:00yep, its just not worth it. Some people are not wo...yep, its just not worth it. Some people are not worth the energy or effort. They aren't in the club and don't get it.~Holliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02604641853111796521noreply@blogger.com