tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post568335356101350177..comments2024-01-01T03:41:22.940-05:00Comments on The Maybe Baby (Babies): The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: A Book Reviewmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-16553235770566212232013-05-15T18:30:03.121-05:002013-05-15T18:30:03.121-05:00Your review makes me want to read Lori's book ...Your review makes me want to read Lori's book even more (I've ordered it, but too late to participate). :p I read a book about ARTs, forget the title but it was by Liza Mundy, that also pointed out the parallels between adoption & donor gametes. I had never thought of it that way before, but it makes complete sense when you think about it. loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-86712643785375489352013-05-11T10:19:29.973-05:002013-05-11T10:19:29.973-05:00What a cool thing to be involved in! I have seen t...What a cool thing to be involved in! I have seen this book popping up all over the place, but I didn't know that it was a book club thing. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15069220262683215373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-22642296593052096242013-05-10T18:21:17.171-05:002013-05-10T18:21:17.171-05:00Wow, just wow. So much in this post, I don't ...Wow, just wow. So much in this post, I don't even really know where to start. <br /><br />Counselling - yes, totally a must. It's so fundamental that all parties in an open adoption come to the table clean of any lingering dirt. It's so not ok for these little people who are sponging up everything their role models (i.e. parents) are leeching out. <br /><br />Your adoptive dad - Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15032718306225742021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-7061995567482361692013-05-10T17:01:26.452-05:002013-05-10T17:01:26.452-05:00Youch: ""my father had 7 kids; I never h...Youch: ""my father had 7 kids; I never had any...."<br /><br />I am so impressed that you did this with one hand and while sleep-deprived :-)And I agree with TireeGal's assessment of it. Your thoughts on the pitfalls of search and reunion highlight for me how much of a difference openness can make.<br /><br />This cool ass lady is thankful to you cool ass lady. (Oh, and if you Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-76337361130873884002013-05-10T01:29:36.408-05:002013-05-10T01:29:36.408-05:00wow, there is so much here. where to begin? ok, f...wow, there is so much here. where to begin? ok, first, you were not a dick. you had no choice in the matter. you were just a kid, a person who was adopted and left to deal with the ramifications on your own. I also love your discussion about expectations in reunion. <br /><br />equally interesting is your approach now as a new mama to little D. and lori's advice is wise. I like mel'lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-43960319727628599002013-05-09T21:17:04.565-05:002013-05-09T21:17:04.565-05:00Thus post is amazing in a way many book reviews ar...Thus post is amazing in a way many book reviews are usually not. It's personal. It comes from your heart and your experience. Thank you! I think I need to go read the book now! So glad you have two wonderful birth family matriarchs in your life now:)tireegal68https://www.blogger.com/profile/13943003575298698264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-40930310003864464762013-05-09T20:54:49.281-05:002013-05-09T20:54:49.281-05:00I do love that attitude to openness being in the m...I do love that attitude to openness being in the mind of the person rather than the hands of someone else who can give or deny a relationship. I think it's empowering.<br /><br />Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-21870496862612347782013-05-09T20:50:32.180-05:002013-05-09T20:50:32.180-05:00I do love that attitude to openness being in the m...I do love that attitude to openness being in the mind of the person rather than the hands of someone else who can give or deny a relationship. I think it's empowering.<br /><br />Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-7139996040447608622013-05-09T17:49:56.768-05:002013-05-09T17:49:56.768-05:00I'm new to your blog (here via the book tour) ...I'm new to your blog (here via the book tour) and so glad to find you. First, congrats on your baby boy! Hooray hooray!<br /><br />Re: the "as if" family: I actually just had a stranger in the grocery store say this to me the other day. She was taken, as many people are, with our gorgeous, charismatic baby girl. She cooed at my daughter and chatted me up while we waited in an Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02282298485721808366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-73229040908667018582013-05-09T13:04:33.999-05:002013-05-09T13:04:33.999-05:00Great post! I love what you shared about reading L...Great post! I love what you shared about reading Lori's book from the various perspectives you bring from the many related hats you wear. <br /><br />I also really appreciate this and how Lori reiterated it throughout her book, <br /><br />"It is more about parenting with an open heart than about having actual info and contact." She repeats this concept - honoring both the Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04175833982955486083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-86988216534109966742013-05-09T09:53:29.578-05:002013-05-09T09:53:29.578-05:00Anna, yes! I so get that! For me, my birth aunt is...Anna, yes! I so get that! For me, my birth aunt is very much like an auntie I love to visit with, or one of my husband's - this new person that gets to be in my family constellation. My birth father...more like the uncle you kind of avoid at family functions? Seriously, lovely guy, but no one I relate to beyond holiday notes and occasional phone calls. mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-44546966243294820312013-05-09T08:13:03.194-05:002013-05-09T08:13:03.194-05:00I never made the connection either for using the t...I never made the connection either for using the term "in-law". As an adult adoptee in reunion with both of my birth-parents I've often felt like they were more like relatives to me rather than parents. My birth mother felt more like that dear old Aunt you love to visit with!Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12829597048518840130noreply@blogger.com