tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post8338325676237370386..comments2024-01-01T03:41:22.940-05:00Comments on The Maybe Baby (Babies): What I *thought* I saidmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-83499797058389818102011-09-15T21:55:43.702-05:002011-09-15T21:55:43.702-05:00I'm happy read too if you want another set of ...I'm happy read too if you want another set of eyes. Just sending good thoughts for the do-over.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-62125425814627805972011-09-14T22:43:03.941-05:002011-09-14T22:43:03.941-05:00Excellent advice. Thank you.Excellent advice. Thank you.mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-86506520187013864092011-09-14T21:51:38.748-05:002011-09-14T21:51:38.748-05:00I'm glad that you went back and reviewed the a...I'm glad that you went back and reviewed the application - I agree that the original "termination" response could have turned off surrogates. Also, I agree that it's a good idea to discuss your story (rather than making everything seem hunky dory) and give your application some emotion. If potential surrogates read a story and it touches them, if there is real emotion, they willFET Accomplihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04022601632796340799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-9585568397810180462011-09-14T08:46:04.995-05:002011-09-14T08:46:04.995-05:00@duck - sound advice. I'm feeling MUCH better ...@duck - sound advice. I'm feeling MUCH better about some of the answers I've reviewed and revised and yes, completely ditched any reference to who *might* have been our GC and focused more on how thankful we are that anyone would take this on and how we're looking forward to working with our future GC. Putting them all in one place and sending them off to a few eyes for a review mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-74378781361456335692011-09-14T07:46:11.855-05:002011-09-14T07:46:11.855-05:00Hmm, well gotta be honest, take out all the stuff ...Hmm, well gotta be honest, take out all the stuff about having a carrier you want to use but looking for someone else.<br />No surrogates want that. They don't want to be compared to someone else. <br /><br />Also, I don't know if your big on JC, but, I have noticed that most of the surrogates seem to be hooked on Jesus. Being an athiest who never wanted to work with someone who was into ducknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-54697254414328960242011-09-12T22:50:45.323-05:002011-09-12T22:50:45.323-05:00So, this is what happens with pretty much everythi...So, this is what happens with pretty much everything I write. Everything. This was surely a huge factor in my decision to follow a career in engineering. (where conveying ideas is still important, but all that emotion shit is thankfully nowhere to be found)<br /><br />I'm so excited for the new, 'recruits'? Sorry. That term makes me laugh. But still very excited.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11393847636501599146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-70825848289922545332011-09-12T12:44:58.827-05:002011-09-12T12:44:58.827-05:00Congratulations. You just did what i counsel hopef...Congratulations. You just did what i counsel hopeful adoptive parents to do: look at it from the viewpoint of your reader.<br /><br />This must be the theme today: seeing from the point of view of The Other. I just read another post on the topic, and I also wrote one about 9/11.<br /><br />Good luck with the new and revised edition!Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-24875776453990738672011-09-12T10:56:32.556-05:002011-09-12T10:56:32.556-05:00Dana, thanks. It is definitely a facepalm kind of ...Dana, thanks. It is definitely a facepalm kind of moment. <br /><br />Niobe, it's multiple choice, but there is an ability to add a comment. So yes, adding a clarification similar to yours makes a lot of sense. Like I said, the more we talk through this, the closer we are getting to how we really feel. <br /><br />I could ask for feedback from the surrogates if they were ones we *really* mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-44068631393716046242011-09-12T10:45:03.036-05:002011-09-12T10:45:03.036-05:00You know, I'm still a little confused.
I thin...You know, I'm still a little confused.<br /><br />I think that it's very, very common for IPs to say something on the issue of termination to the effect that if prenatal testing showed a severe medical problem with the fetus or one that posed a threat to the surrogate's life or health, they would seek medical advice and, depending on what the doctors said, seriously consider niobenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-68559928735413026382011-09-12T09:47:35.195-05:002011-09-12T09:47:35.195-05:00I'm so glad you reviewed your profile. Reading...I'm so glad you reviewed your profile. Reading your post, and then your response to theluckylife, there is definitely a difference. Glad you see it, even more glad that you're working on fixing it and making sure there's no further confusion. (kind of a facepalm moment, lol)<br /><br />I'm so excited y'all!danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14629199548004353461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-16355400415305114502011-09-12T09:20:26.515-05:002011-09-12T09:20:26.515-05:00Not a dumb question at all! The difference, at lea...Not a dumb question at all! The difference, at least how I read it this morning, is that the multiple choice answer we gave makes it sound like, "oh, there's the chance of an abnormality or something less than perfect? We're done." <br /><br />The answer I *wanted* to give was, "these are very hard questions and ones I don't think you can really know how you would mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4081793919169564426.post-60025450314655962452011-09-12T09:11:20.629-05:002011-09-12T09:11:20.629-05:00I suppose it's a bit of a process, a few month...I suppose it's a bit of a process, a few months ago you wouldn't have noticed it the way you do now. Sorry to sound a bit dumb, but what is the difference between the answer you wanted to give and the one you gave? All I can see is that you need the option to be able to terminate, and I would say it's very important for that to be understood!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com