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I'm sorry it was tough - you are brave to have...

2010-02-02T22:51:43.631-05:00

I'm sorry it was tough - you are brave to have done it. My father (bio, not adopted, but we left him when I was 2) called me to talk, back when I was 23. For the first time EVER that I am aware of. He got my machine, and I called his girlfriend back, and gave her hell about what a creep he was. She said he loves me.

He was dying at the time, which I didn't entirely know. I

Wow. What a day.

2009-12-04T18:00:42.122-05:00

Wow. What a day.

wow, that is something. I can't even imagine....

2009-12-01T01:40:59.912-05:00

wow, that is something. I can't even imagine. I'm glad to know you've got some wonderful new people in your life though.

oh no! wow, glad M was there with you and that you...

2009-11-30T22:17:07.959-05:00

oh no! wow, glad M was there with you and that you managed to somehow get through it. and now you have some more jersey girls to love! perfect.
xo

I'm soooo with you on the neediness. The more ...

2009-11-30T17:15:17.590-05:00

I'm soooo with you on the neediness. The more someone needs me to like them, the more I want to get away. The thing I think is particularly hard with blood relatives is you're supposed to like each other just cuz you're blood, when if you weren't blood, you'd probably never be friends...

Wow, what an emotional event for everyone. While ...

2009-11-30T09:32:20.416-05:00

Wow, what an emotional event for everyone. While I'm sure the stuff with your dad was cringeworthy, I'm glad the Sassy ladies were there - they sound like a trip!

As for your dad, I'm just sending you super hugs for your guts. You impress me with your fortitude on a daily basis.

I actually had to sleep on my comment before I pos...

2009-11-30T08:53:20.859-05:00

I actually had to sleep on my comment before I posted, hoping that soemthing amazing would pour out of me, but, I got nothing.
My BFF when younger was adopted and longed to meet her bio people, and when she did she was dissappointed (she wanted a brother, a protector, and a white picket fence) and what she got were people that really were strangers, and not what she was looking for...

I can't imagine a more full on week for a pers...

2009-11-30T02:15:48.509-05:00

I can't imagine a more full on week for a person! Wow. I can't even imagine.

How lucky that you didn't meet him without the rest of the redeeming clan... I am a huge believer in meeting 'your people' however they come to each of us in life -- most of 'my people' came to me in the most random of ways.

Wow... what a thing to add a top everything

I'm glad some of them turned out to be great, ...

2009-11-30T00:37:07.287-05:00

I'm glad some of them turned out to be great, and that you have more info on your birth mother. And even if you decide you don't want much of a relationship with him, you've had a chance to meet him.
Would it be terribly foot-in-mouth of me to say that I'm glad you were brought up by people other than him, if that's how he was when he was younger too?
Good on you

Wow, what a story. I mean, you expect the tearful ...

2009-11-29T22:13:30.081-05:00

Wow, what a story. I mean, you expect the tearful lovefest reunion when you think of these things. :) I'm sorry that he was a spazz.

There's gotta be something of him in you, though -- probably some of the good parts.

Do you look like your birthmom?

Oh wow, m - Heavy! I didnt' realize this was ...

2009-11-29T21:51:17.085-05:00

Oh wow, m - Heavy! I didnt' realize this was coming up so soon. Based on your brief discription I suspect I would have walked away with similar thoughts/ opinions :) But I think that it is wonderful and awesome and brave that you went! And, more importantly, that you're glad you went.

This is enormous and without good words, I'm j...

2009-11-29T21:42:20.062-05:00

This is enormous and without good words, I'm just squeezing your hand. What would be the ideal next steps for you?

I'm gonna second Angie on this one...how many ...

2009-11-29T21:40:57.763-05:00

I'm gonna second Angie on this one...how many ways could you possibly pronounce it?

And the thing about nerves. Maybe he just couldn't quite get it together in your presence.

Holy crap your plate is full! A lesser woman would have wilted under the pressure this month. You are my hero.

So freaking huge, m. Sounds both amazing and disap...

2009-11-29T20:51:09.249-05:00

So freaking huge, m. Sounds both amazing and disappointing at the same time. So cool to find out about your mother and have these new amazing women in your life. Your dad sounds a great deal like my dad too (the jaw-dropping inappropriateness, dangling cigarette, and feelings of absolute disconnectedness of all he is.) Here's to hoping nerves did a number on all of his social graces. Bringing

What a tremendous day. FWIW, I am not adopted, an...

2009-11-29T20:13:45.019-05:00

What a tremendous day. FWIW, I am not adopted, and that abot sums up how I felt about my dad for most of our relationship. Wish that part had been different, but I am thrilled that you found 2 new relatives whom you'd actually choose. That's huge.

Wow. Just wow. Such a long-awaited event. So glad...

2009-11-29T20:00:55.878-05:00

Wow. Just wow. Such a long-awaited event.

So glad you have these new sassy joisey gals in your life.

Wow. I can't quite grasp what that must have been like for you, for him.

I am sorry to hear your visit was not all you hope...

2009-11-29T19:39:50.089-05:00

I am sorry to hear your visit was not all you hoped for, but glad something positive came out of your visit.

Sassy Jersey ladies = cool. Fag smoking grubby t-...

2009-11-29T18:41:25.300-05:00

Sassy Jersey ladies = cool.
Fag smoking grubby t-shirted dad = not so cool.
You are brave to go through this and now you know and you can pick and choose how much you want to see him and how much you want to see those lovely ladies.
That is seriously a lot to deal with.
Hmmmm...(hugs)

Sorry it was not all fabulous, but I guess that...

2009-11-29T18:09:13.337-05:00

Sorry it was not all fabulous, but I guess that's to be expected. I'm so happy you do have some wonderful new people in your life. Hope that balances out the rest.