I love that I got to see A. from the glutton button this week. And I'm still scheming ways to see a few other blog friends before the first month of the new year passes.
That reminds me....I should probably throw down some resolutions, hey?
I was reading an article on weight loss the other day and it said for any fitness goals to work they have to be specific, measurable, attainable.
Specific. Measurable. Attainable.
This idea was re-emphasized when I watched the video embedded in this post over at Weight in Vain where the speaker/researcher starts off by talking about her shock when her professor told her:
If you cannot measure it, it does not exist.
She goes on to recount her six years of research trying to define, trying to measure Shame. (Can you imagine?) And then talks about her findings on connections, living wholeheartedly and the role of vulnerability, including her year of therapy she needed to come to terms with her conclusions. And I really, really think you should find 20 minutes in your day/evening to listen to it.
Here is the advice she leaves to the audience:
- Let ourselves be seen - vulnerabilities and all
- Love with our whole heart
- Practice gratitude and joy
- Believe that we are enough
to see myself published. Maybe an essay here, an article there. I've got some ideas I've been sitting on, some posts here I'd like to build and grow. But I've been: too busy/too scared to flesh them out and put them out there. I think I need to find the time and follow the advice I always give to M - if you don't try you will never know.
to open our home to more people more often. I'm talking dinner parties, informal gatherings, you know, taking the free time we have and actually sharing it with people. Neither M nor I are particularly good at this but we love it when it actually happens by accident, like it did yesterday. M is private and isn't crazy about people up in his space. I fear throwing a party only to have no one come. It's that whole will people like each other do they like us will the food be ok will I be boring oh why don't we just sit on the couch and watch some reality TV its much easier mindset. I guess that's what the researcher is talking about when she talks about opening ourselves to vulnerability...
to practice more gratitude and patience with my parents and show less anger. Specifically, to use real calming techniques to prevent my laser tongue from lashing out so quickly. They are getting older. They need me. They don't need me reminding them of their shortcomings. I had a long talk with my dad a few weeks ago where I told him how upset I was when he forgot I and J's day. His response was so honest and so heartbreaking (you don't think it hurt me? You don't think it isn't awful not to be able to remember anything? I cannot remember things and I know it gets me in trouble and I don't know what to do. I just feel so old) it has truly made me rethink how I handled that situation and how I added to his pain as I so forcefully expressed mine. I must control my temper. I must watch my words. Mostly, I must not let them be the receptacles of all of the anger that I shield from the rest of the world.
to run at least 3 half-marathons. Basically, to keep running, to build on my running, to gain confidence in my running. To believe I am enough and that I can.
Was that professor Brene Brown? I posted about her a few weeks back and the message sounds similar. And brilliant.
So, another resolution for you: TRIP TO DENVER! We have kayaks here :-)
Cool. Big fan of Brene Brown. Vulnerability very important. Good luck with all your aims! Peace.
Wow that measurement comment really makes you think. Love your resolutions! When I read your last one I thought to myself... could I do 3 halfs in 2011? hmmm :)
Definitely going to watch the video.
I think your resolutions are 100% attainable! Keep your determined attitude; no matter the outcome, it is the determination that'll make or break you.
Great resolutions.. and really would also like to see you published. I love your writing and way of thinking. A great day is a day where a post of yours in google reader:) running and writing are an excellent combination too! Best wishes in 2011.
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