Thursday, December 20, 2007


My mom is on Facebook.

I know because she sent me a "confirm how you know (me)" email.

And I did. And then I went through my own facebook page with a fine tooth comb to see if there was anything incriminating on there. By incriminating I don't mean photos of me drunk and stupid; I mean IVF-maybe baby-fertility plans incriminating....

There was one hyperlink that, if she chose to click it, would have taken her to another online project that I am working on (not, thank goddess), which would have spilled the beans.

How savvy is mom with hyperlinks?

We'll see, won't we?

Next question: how good is she with google?

Now, it's not terrible if she puts two and two together and figures out that we are trying to have a baby. It's not terrible at all. But we chose NOT to tell mom or dad because if you recall: a.) they were in the process of selling their house, moving and relocating to a new state, all with more than a little bit of trepidation and we didn't want to muddy the waters; b.) I don't tell my parents much; c.) I don't tell my parents much because they worry and fret and bug the shit out of me until they are assured everything is ok.

I know that we have a long road ahead of us that will be tough enough without daily calls and goddess-forbid, visits to check up on me. I would have rather had a great "guess what??" moment in the spring. But so it goes.



Anonymous said...

Whoa. I'm sorry this dilemma is coming back up again.

Lori Lavender Luz said...

You, M, are a wise woman.

Let's hope your mom isn't too google-savvy.

Still hoping your road is short.

stacyb said...

somehow the idea that our moms can be on facebook is pretty funny...although obviously sobering if all of a sudden a world you think is private and protected isn't. the long arm or eyeball of mom continues.

i never thought about the google-savvy...ugh.

as for your "guess what??" moment, you still may have that.

interested to know what your other online project is...when you are ready to launch it.

Lisa said...

Dang, that sucks. I hope she doesn't figure it out.

Anonymous said...

i understand this one. i chose not to tell my parents about this cycle or this pregnancy so far. although i'm sure they WANT to be supportive, the things that came out of their mouth last time were horrible. i thought i'd give it three months before I let them in on my little years day i will enter my 4th month and I will be announcing to my family. somethings are better kept on the downlow when it comes to parental units.

LIW (Lady In Waiting) said...

If she's as google savvy as my mom, she will never find it.

I have mentioned before to my mother that I have a blog but it only seemed to click on Monday night. I told her how to find it but quickly because, even though she knows about our IF struggles, I am not convinced I want her to read my blog....