There is already a stunning collection of posts painting pictures of infertility and loss with analogies ranging from mountains to islands to trains to tracks to radishes.
Yes. Radishes. Here is my submission. An older post, but still one of my favorites.
There's still time to share yours. What images have you used to try to explain your situations to others? To yourself? Which ones resonate most with you?
Absolutely totally understand the analogy,
I always try to explain infertility as a war, my husband and I fought in the war, there were many battles,some small like the monthly battles, and some big, like ivf, and when third parties got involved, and lawyers, it got bigger.
We don't talk much about our war, if we know that someone has been through the same thing we may share battle stories, but generally we keep it to ourselves,because it's hard for those who have never experienced the war to know how it changes us.
I can totally understand this - I feel like I flip between oversharing (you MUST know about my uterus!) and keeping very tight lips about our struggles among "real life" friends and colleagues. Lately, I've been pretty surprised by the number of fellow soldiers we've met when pieces of our battle stories slip out in conversation.
It IS hard for others to know and understand how the war changes us, and I think that's the beauty of the analogy projects, because amidst all the images and similes, there are bound to be ones that pop out to some folks and make them go, "oh! oh, it's like that?"
I mean, maybe that's my hope. I hope the potential for greater understanding is there.
Great post.. I remember reading it awhile ago. I sometimes think it is less cruel to just deal out the results and reality and let people cope with it, rather than force a person to select which door to open, which treatment option to take, or which radish to thin out. I hate making those choices...
thanks, and I agree, the potential for greater understanding is always out there.
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