Monday, February 18, 2008

Actual Email Exchange

Names omitted to protect the uninformed....

> From: _________
> To:
> Subject: Love your blog..
> Date: Wed, 6 Feb 2008 12:36:22 -0800
> Hi Themaybebaby ,
> My name is __________. I am a mother of 3 and I run a parenting site
> over at
> http://__________
> I stumbled across your blog today and was pleasantly surprised.
> Since you are a tech savvy momma I wanted to get your impression
> of my site, it's been up for a couple of days now and I'm looking for
> feedback.
> If you like it, maybee you could find the time to give it a quick
> shoutout in your blog
> or add us to your blogroll :)
> If you don't, I would love to hear the reason's why not and what could
> be improved.
> Either way, i'd appreciate it and look forward to reading your blog
> again.
> I've added it to me feeds :)

My response:

______, thanks for your email, but I'm not sure if you really read my blog. If you had, you'd know I'm not a tech savvy "mamma." In fact, there is a good chance I may never get the chance to be a "mamma." The blog is about infertility and trying to conceive using donor eggs. Your site looks fine, but please, I beg you, please be more careful when sending out requests like this - there are a lot of tech savvy women out there who are blogging about trying to become mothers and the assumptions made in your form email could really sting if someone who has just experienced a pregnancy loss or yet another negative pregnancy result.

Please be more careful,



I hope you don't mind me speaking for folks other than myself on this matter. If I had read this email immediately after my BFN, I may have tracked down this person and done something regretable. I am assuming other IFers would feel the same.


Lori Lavender Luz said...

That was a very good shout out.

stacyb said...

Amen to that.

Anonymous said...

you were much nicer than I would have been!! :)

LIW (Lady In Waiting) said...

That's absolutey horrible. It makes me wonder if a company is behind it - say a company that advertises on her blog - in a promotional effort. I can't imagine an actual person doing that.

Great response, by the way!