Childhood cancer survivor. That's the good news. Bad news? Chemo and radiation zapped my eggs leaving me infertile. Egg donors were found, several attempts were made and finally we were blessed with beautiful twin girls - born too early (21 wks, 5 days on Dec. 5, 2008). Hang out with me while we savor life with Big Baby Boy, who arrived via gestational surrogate on March 25, 2013.
Thursday, June 18, 2009
Called It
My GTalk is filled with words from a man who is now doubting his self-worth, his value and the meaning of everything.
Thanks, fates. Thanks a fucking lot. Could you at least point me towards the words to soothe?
Oh it is so hard when someone you love is in that place... normally in my relationship it is me who is there and my husband who is thinking what you are writing today.. but it goes both ways in this house too sometimes.
Oh oh oh I hope there mercy out there and some birthday celebrating can be had. Thinking of ya all day!!!
Your presence and your compassionate, love-filled listening ear probably provide more soothing power than you realize. You both bear witness to one another's pain, and I think sometimes that is the best and bravest thing we can do. I send you both big, warm hugs.
Sometimes it helps my husband if I just listen. Sometimes he goes to a therapist. I agree a media blackout is a good idea. Maybe a nice picnic in a secluded place or a romantic dinner can show him how much you appreciate him.
I'm holding you both in my heart today, hoping that things have lightened somewhat and M can see how magnificent he is. Sending you both wishes for peace and a veritable truckload of mercy.
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Ugh. I'm so sorry. :( I hope he comes out of it soon -- maybe a media blackout for the next three days would soften the Fathers' Day blow, as well.
I'm so very sorry. For both of you. Wishing you and M peace.
Oh it is so hard when someone you love is in that place... normally in my relationship it is me who is there and my husband who is thinking what you are writing today.. but it goes both ways in this house too sometimes.
Oh oh oh I hope there mercy out there and some birthday celebrating can be had. Thinking of ya all day!!!
That is so very difficult. Sometimes words help...not always. You know him best. You will know what to do.
Your presence and your compassionate, love-filled listening ear probably provide more soothing power than you realize. You both bear witness to one another's pain, and I think sometimes that is the best and bravest thing we can do. I send you both big, warm hugs.
-heather
I wish I knew. I hope he is doing better today. Wishing you both peace.
Sometimes it helps my husband if I just listen. Sometimes he goes to a therapist. I agree a media blackout is a good idea. Maybe a nice picnic in a secluded place or a romantic dinner can show him how much you appreciate him.
I'm holding you both in my heart today, hoping that things have lightened somewhat and M can see how magnificent he is. Sending you both wishes for peace and a veritable truckload of mercy.
I'm so sorry - give him an extra big hug from me. xo
You are his mercy. Just love him up, massage his head and be there for him.
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