Monday, August 24, 2009

Perfect Moment: A Conversation

Yes, ok. I'm sorry. I confess. I did "bury the lede" in my last post and Nutmeg rightfully called me out. Sorry. Sorry.

But I wasn't doing it to be coy. Seriously, I honestly just HAD to blurt it out and I wasn't sure how to segue into that news and where to go with it all once I did. And that's still kind of where I am this morning. How much can I say here? What is "safe" info to share and what might influence future events by saying it out loud?

Bear with me people; This whole "reunification" thing, it's a bit of a mind fuck.

But wait. Stop. I'm getting ahead of myself. Because at the heart of the matter, there are some truly Perfect Moments here that I don't think will fade. Let's see if I can't round them up:

This all went down Thursday evening, just as M and I were setting down the kick ass platter of bean burritos, home made tortillas and fixins and trying to figure out which old movie to watch. I see that there's a message on my phone and who its from. Do I deal with this now, or wait until I eat? M. says, what the hell, just check it out.

Sure enough, the message is brief. "Call me back. I have news."

And so I did. And so she did.

My birth mother was located. Contacted. Said thanks, but no thanks. And for some reason, I was unfazed by that. Did I expect it? Am I simply so well prepared for disappointing news these days? Did I anticipate that better news was awaiting at the end of the sentence? No idea, really. I just kind of shrugged my shoulders, shook my head no to M. and kept on prepping my burrito.

And then,

And then the person on the phone started to chuckle as she explained to me the second reaction she received that evening. The one from my birth father. The one that resulted in tears and shouts and a YES! Please. I would love to talk to her! When??

I got a name.
I got a number.
I have two brothers.

I had an hour-long conversation with someone that I don't know very well who told me that this was something straight out of the movies. He told me he is proud of me and he loves me.

And that, my friends, is my Perfect Moment.

Yes, yes! Still many, many questions and unknowns and I am trying very hard to keep a level head about it all. Stay Calm. Carry On. But I think it is A-ok to just bask in this (not very) little piece of it all right now. Don't you?

Perfect Moment Monday is about noticing a perfect moment rather than about creating one. Perfect moments can be momentous or ordinary or somewhere in between. Want to see more perfect moments? Go check out Lori at Weebles Wobblog and others' perfect moments this Monday.


B. said...

What an amazing reaction from your birth-dad! I'm so happy for you, and I agree that it sure does make for a "perfect moment." Bask away!

Lori Lavender Luz said...

I love the news about your brothers, too.

And how awesome did it feel to hear that your birthdad loves you and is proud of you?

I'm so glad you shared this as a perfect moment, because it SO is.

Cara said...

Holy Shit! That is just amazing. You are so centered lately and damn, if that dinner wasn't a perfect moment in itself.

Can't wait to hear more!!

Ryan's Mommy said...

That. Is. Wild.

I am so happy for you!

Delenn said...

I love your birth-dad's reaction--so not what one would expect, so what one would hope for.

Bluebird said...

Oh freaking wow. Holy Shit again!

This post gave me goosebumps. What more could you have asked for in a reaction?, I mean really?!!! I take it that the conversation after the amazing reaction went well, too? I am beyond thrilled for you. Beyond.


annacyclopedia said...

I have shivers and I am all weepy and I am just in awe and I am so incredibly happy for you. Truly this is one of the best perfect moments I've ever read about.

Basking is indeed called for.

Sue said...

How wonderful, and I'm so glad you got some good news for a change. A perfect moment indeed.

michelle said...

Wow! Just wow. And yay! BIG yay! Looking forward to hearing more perfect moments.......congrats you really just so deserved a perfect moment like this.

Anonymous said...

I'm so happy for you!

T said...

Wonderfulness!! What an amazing and wonderful reaction. Is there a possible meeting in the future?

still life angie said...

I got shivers reading this post, and tears. (Not that that is too hard.) What a beautiful moment.

And you have cool.

XO with much love.

Barbara said...

Aww you so deserve some perfect moments!

This is great!


Kami said...

Oh my gosh! I am so glad that I didn't read the last post until today because I hate waiting.

Wow! Just incredible.

This is what I want to know:

How did it feel to your birthday say how proud he was of you?

Why does it matter (because I suspect it does or you wouldn't have gone looking)?

What does it mean to have 2 brothers? Why is (genetic) family so important? You know, LB has 2 half brothers by her donor, but I don't like to think about that.

What else do you know? What else do you want to know? When will you meet? What else is going through your head?

Wow. Thank you SO much for sharing this experience with us.

Baby Smiling In Back Seat said...

How fantastic! Hooray!

Dani819 said...

Happy crying for you over here. That really IS perfect.

loribeth said...

How wonderful, for both of you!!

Kate said...

I'm sure glad she gave you the "bad news" first and then let you bask in the glow of such an incredible reaction from your birth father. You know you made the effort to get in contact with your birth Mom, and presumably she'll know how to get in touch if she changes her mind after the surprise wears off.
But how awesome is your birth dad's reaction? Freaking amazing! To have siblings and another father who's ready to love you and have a relationship with you? Fantastic! Congrats!

Once A Mother said...

just when I thought the burritos were the moment, because they are perfect in my book, you hit us with such news! that is an amazingly perfect moment, thank you for sharing it with us. how exciting to have two brothers too.

Anonymous said...


Like Kami, I'm SO glad I just read both posts yesterday because I would have been even CRAZIER this past weekend. Nice cliffhanger M. :P

So, OMG again! I mean - um - I don't even know! TOTALLY happy for you of course! And I also want to run to your office and get the second by second play by play with every tiny detail! And I have a million questions! (Like you don't! lol)

Which is why I'm staying here at my desk, so as not to frighten you. :)

But OMG! :)


Smiling said...

Wow what a great response from your dad! wow oh wow oh wow! And burritos already made to celebrate with!!! and while your mother's response is not fairy tale, there is something reassuring that that someone with half your genes is live and healthy and speaking, okay maybe that is a bit polyanna of me, but still, it would suck to here that she had MS or something. Oh I wish you all the best in this crazy journey. What a year you have had... I am so glad you have a great partner by your side through it all.

oh thank you so much for sharing this amazing moment with us.

jill said...

So happy for you! That is wonderful :)

Somewhat Ordinary said...

What an awesome moment! Your birth father sounds like a really great man!

Anonymous said...

Wow, how cool!

Dora said...

Wonderful! Just wonderful. The universe is a good place.

Holly said...

Tears of joy, just for you-what a beautiful story. Too Bad your birthmom is missing out...

Of course your Dad loves you!!! Such beautiful news!

Two Shorten the Road said...

More! More!

Unknown said...

That is a totally perfect moment. Wow, it gives me shivers. He sounds like a great guy (maybe a bit too early to say that but that's such a lovely reaction to your request).

And I didn't know about Perfect Moment Mondays. Gives me something positive to do today, thank you.